Our lives change all the time. Sometimes we have a choice on the change but others we don't. I have faith that the change will work out for the best. The universe has a funny way of working out.
When in the middle of a change or shift it can be hard to see the reasons but when you can remove yourself and take a step back and reflect usually you can see that the change is for the best.
We have many times in our lives when a shift happens and it's up to us on how we react. Sometimes it's hard to react positively and take it in stride, for example when you or a loved one is faced with illness or death. When faced with those changes or shifts it's hard to see the good or even to see the light. It's how you deal with the situation that will affect your life for the better or worse.
I don't want to sound like I'm making light of hard time but I have found that when I have faith and a positive outlook I can usually handle the change alot easier.
This past year has had many changes for me. My life has shifted so much and at first I didn't deal with it well. The world was a very dark place and I was lost. Of course being a mother you continue your day to day and so on but I was just drifting, swaying with the waves. The hard part for me was that what I was dealing with was my own stuff, it didn't have a huge impact on the kids or my husband it was all me. I am so good at taking care of everyone else (and do it all the time) that I didn't know how to deal with myself, with my own issues.
Finally I got sick of feeling like I was living in a cave alone and I started opening the doors and windows. Putting on a brave face I took a stand. I wasn't going to let what happened tear me down any longer. It was then I took that step back that I realized that the change had not only affected me in a negative way but while I was in that dark cave alone my loved ones were on the outside waiting for me to come alive again. It took a few weeks for my husband and kids to realize I wasn't in there any longer and even though I was "present" in our day to day I wasn't really enjoying life with them and they noticed.
My friends were also a big part of me taking coming out of the darkness. They helped pull me out of it fully. Finding out that they were behind me the whole time and that they were waiting for me to deal with things in my own time. Once some of them started noticing that I was back and ready to take on life, ready to live life they were there to support me. I was in such a dark place I never realized they were all right there behind me.
Once I was back in the light I found that who you surround yourself with affects you so profoundly. Now that I have some very beautiful, extraordinary, fabulous women in my life that support me one hundred and fifty percent I feel like I can take on any challenge the universe throws at me.
No word of a lie my husband is phenomenal. I love him with all my heart, he is my soul mate and my rock but with this shift and change in my life I needed female support.
We all deal with change our own ways, taking a positive approach to the change or shift can help us through it so much easier then hiding in a cave or letting it drag us down.
